i'm tired of being what you want me to be;
feeling so faithless, lost under the surface......
let me first tell you how i stumbled upon this song. i was watching Miami vice trailer on youtube, (You might have noticed my latest look is suspiciously similar to Colin Farell's in Miami Vice) and Numb, (Linkin Park ft JayZ) was the soundtrack. i kind of liked it and looked around for the original. and i've been hooked to it ever since.
dont know what you're expectin' of me;
but under the pressure of walking in your shoes.........
parents, in their quest for the perfect child, often forget that their child is a human being as well. he might have his own dreams, desires, beliefs and opinions. these opinions are shaped by the way of life of that particular generation. consequently, a child grows up with beliefs different from those of his parents, because he belongs to a different generation.
the trouble begins when the beliefs start clashing.
every step that i take is another mistake to you...............
i cant say i know how a parent feels, coz i've never been a parent. but i can guess.
i'd suppose they feel betrayed, let down by their own flesh and blood, who dared turn out to be different than them. some are furious at the knowledge that they havent been able to control their child's thoughts as well as they controlled his actions. some are broken at what they take to be their child's way of taking a step away from them, of becoming distant. and like the proverbial silver lining, there are some who understand. unfortunately, i have yet to come across such a parent.
to all the parents who cant learn to live with the fact that their child thinks and believes differently than them, i'd like to say, it isnt any easier for the child either. get over yourselves for two seconds and try to think about that.
the child goes through a constant tug-of-war, day after day after day. on one hand, his mind is shaping up based on what he sees around him. on the other hand, his parents want to shape his mind based on what THEY saw around them 50 years ago. itz ok if the world works differently today; being old timers, they can just sit back and say "whatz the world coming to?"
but it aint so simple for the child, who's afraid his parents might be furious or hurt with him. bcoz, and this is what makes it so hard, the child loves his parents too.
parents sometimes dont even realise when they become control freaks, in an attempt to mold their child's life they way they want it. they want to know everything he does, and thinks about. they want him to have the same beliefs in every matter, religious, political or social. a hindu fundamentalist hates his son for having muslim friends. a pious mother is scandalised when her daughter tells her she doesnt think it's necessary to abstain from meat on saturdays in order to please God. Parents hug each other and weep when they learn their son isnt interested in getting married. (okay, maybe that last one was a hyperbole).
cant you see that you're smothering me
holding too tightly, afraid to lose control.
'coz everything that you thought i would be
is falling apart right in front of you............
this, i think, is a major reason for the gap between parents and children. there are so many things children dont tell their parents, simply bcoz we know our parents wouldn't understand. and parents think their children dont trust them enough!
every step that i take is another mistake to you;
and every second i waste is more than i can take........
what we need is freedom. the freedom to think the way we want to, act the way we want to. let us make our own decisions, and our own mistakes too. let us learn from our mistakes, rather than trying to program your beliefs into our heads. we're human beings too, you know. not computers.
and i know,
i may end up failing too
but i know,
you were just like me with someone disappointed in you.....
i love you, but i just cannot be a personification of your beliefs. i can no longer be a robot, take in your input and give you the desired output. i'm sorry.
i've become so numb, i can't feel you there
become so tired, so much more aware
i'm becoming this, all i want to do
is be more like me and be less like you
More like me, and less like you..................
feeling so faithless, lost under the surface......
let me first tell you how i stumbled upon this song. i was watching Miami vice trailer on youtube, (You might have noticed my latest look is suspiciously similar to Colin Farell's in Miami Vice) and Numb, (Linkin Park ft JayZ) was the soundtrack. i kind of liked it and looked around for the original. and i've been hooked to it ever since.
dont know what you're expectin' of me;
but under the pressure of walking in your shoes.........
parents, in their quest for the perfect child, often forget that their child is a human being as well. he might have his own dreams, desires, beliefs and opinions. these opinions are shaped by the way of life of that particular generation. consequently, a child grows up with beliefs different from those of his parents, because he belongs to a different generation.
the trouble begins when the beliefs start clashing.
every step that i take is another mistake to you...............
i cant say i know how a parent feels, coz i've never been a parent. but i can guess.
i'd suppose they feel betrayed, let down by their own flesh and blood, who dared turn out to be different than them. some are furious at the knowledge that they havent been able to control their child's thoughts as well as they controlled his actions. some are broken at what they take to be their child's way of taking a step away from them, of becoming distant. and like the proverbial silver lining, there are some who understand. unfortunately, i have yet to come across such a parent.
to all the parents who cant learn to live with the fact that their child thinks and believes differently than them, i'd like to say, it isnt any easier for the child either. get over yourselves for two seconds and try to think about that.
the child goes through a constant tug-of-war, day after day after day. on one hand, his mind is shaping up based on what he sees around him. on the other hand, his parents want to shape his mind based on what THEY saw around them 50 years ago. itz ok if the world works differently today; being old timers, they can just sit back and say "whatz the world coming to?"
but it aint so simple for the child, who's afraid his parents might be furious or hurt with him. bcoz, and this is what makes it so hard, the child loves his parents too.
parents sometimes dont even realise when they become control freaks, in an attempt to mold their child's life they way they want it. they want to know everything he does, and thinks about. they want him to have the same beliefs in every matter, religious, political or social. a hindu fundamentalist hates his son for having muslim friends. a pious mother is scandalised when her daughter tells her she doesnt think it's necessary to abstain from meat on saturdays in order to please God. Parents hug each other and weep when they learn their son isnt interested in getting married. (okay, maybe that last one was a hyperbole).
cant you see that you're smothering me
holding too tightly, afraid to lose control.
'coz everything that you thought i would be
is falling apart right in front of you............
this, i think, is a major reason for the gap between parents and children. there are so many things children dont tell their parents, simply bcoz we know our parents wouldn't understand. and parents think their children dont trust them enough!
every step that i take is another mistake to you;
and every second i waste is more than i can take........
what we need is freedom. the freedom to think the way we want to, act the way we want to. let us make our own decisions, and our own mistakes too. let us learn from our mistakes, rather than trying to program your beliefs into our heads. we're human beings too, you know. not computers.
and i know,
i may end up failing too
but i know,
you were just like me with someone disappointed in you.....
i love you, but i just cannot be a personification of your beliefs. i can no longer be a robot, take in your input and give you the desired output. i'm sorry.
i've become so numb, i can't feel you there
become so tired, so much more aware
i'm becoming this, all i want to do
is be more like me and be less like you
More like me, and less like you..................
4 comments:
Dear Fathers and Mothers,
A tiny point to be noted:
Please love us and understand us, as you yourself longed to be understood by your parents.. some 50 odd years back.
You wore the same kind of shoes which we are wearing now,so you know that if the shoe fits too tightly... how the blisters hurt. You know,'coz you had them yourselves. Some 50 odd years back.
And one last request to all of you. Everyone can become a father or a mother.. but only a lucky few can become a Dad or a Mom.
Please let us call you guys Dad and Mom. Please.
With that hope only,
Children of the scorned.
hmm...hv wondered many times over this issue...bt m glad tht m a blsessed one n hv my freedom...still hv seen such parents ard me...n at times i really feel like showin thm d mirror as to wht they r doin to their children...bt obviously it may infuriate thm coz m younger to thm...n this is wht stops me...hope they realize it soon...on their own
aye Goth... i totally understand what you're talking about... as do SO many others (everyone actually). the funny part is out parents felt it too when they were growing up, but swore never to be like that. well never say never coz it's happened
linkin park was my succor when I was going through teen-angst period back when I was in jr college...I still listen to it....I still believe that at last what my parents tried to ingrain in my head...may not have been perfect...but that is what they had to offer...they could not offer any more than that...so total credit to them for trying to make me better with all their effort...of course I was not going to listen to everything they say... and follow it...but still they were just doing their job...and I will do the same..more importantly I will try to strike a balance when I preach to my kids...and they dont feel let down or anything..what they are trying to preach are safety measures...thoughts and beliefs that have seen them through their harsh 30-40 yrs of life...so though they may not be futile...they are not necesarily important to follow...but just dont discredit their effort...of course some parents are just too imposing and stubborn...well such parents have forgotten that they were kids once too....
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